You Did It. It’s Your Fault.

I always find one of the most curious things about life is how people do something; they create a situation but when it does not turn out the way they want it to turn out or the situation they instigated damages some-thing or the life of some-one then they attempt to hide from the fact that they are the one who instigated the occurrence in the first place. And, in fact, attempt to be seen as the victim in the entire ploy. …Let alone they do not take any responsibility for what they have done and attempt to undo or repair it.

Why is this? Why are people so self-involved, self-serving, and uncaring? Why do people only think about themselves? Why do they appear to be the victim when they are the one who instigated the entire everything in the first place?

I think if we studied the life of each person we would find a very individualized reason for why a person does what they do. That’s what psychologists do all the time—dig deeply into a person’s why. But, at the core of what sets any situation sideways is the fact that one person only thought about themselves—their needs, their desires. They did not think about how what they did would or could affect anyone else.

We live in an interesting time where, especially here in the free world, people are encouraged to be themselves—to feel what they feel and do what they do in the most open manner possible. But, there is a problem with this. That problem is that many people have never developed an internal sense of right and wrong. They have never mentally developed themselves to the degree where they look outside of themselves and question how what they do will affect the everything else. They just think. They just feel. They just desire. They just judge. They just react. From this is born the world of pain and suffering. Perhaps not the pain and suffering of the instigator but the pain and suffering of all those who were forced deal with what was done—what was instigated by someone else.

This is where the concept of discrimination come into play. There was an elemental text written on this subject by the great Hindu Sage, Sri Shachara Charya, titled, Vivekachudamani or The Crest jewel of Discrimination. I often recommend this text for it truly teaches the aspirant how to take the focus off of Self and place it upon the Higher Self. I also recommend certain translations of the Tao Te Ching for this same reason. But, it seems that nobody wants to read these books. Nobody wants to take conscious control over their mind. Sure, everybody wants to be richer, prettier, more powerful, more famous, you name it… But, no one wants to care about the Higher Self—about giving instead of taking—about thinking before reacting. It seems that no one wants to control the beast within. They just want to let the beast run free doing whatever it wants to do. But then, something goes wrong… Then, they hurt something. Then, they hurt someone. Instead of caring enough to care, they bob and weave but never look at themselves and their responsibility for unleashing the life situation.

Do you ever think about what you think? Do you ever think about why you think it? Do you ever think about how your emotions control you? Do you ever think about why you let your emotions control you? Do you ever think about what actions emulate from you because of what you think and how you are emotionally reacting to the world?

Studying yourself is not difficult. When you take a walk by yourself what do you think about? When you are taking a walk by yourself this is a really good time to perform a mental exercise. Study what you are thinking. When you are alone do you think solely about yourself—what you want, who you want, who you want to hurt, how you want to feel? Or, do you think about someone else? Do you ponder how you can make the life of another person or the whole world better? There is no right or wrong answer to this mental exercise. It is just a simple experiment where you can learn about you.

All things in this life start with one person. Whether these things are big or small, bad or good, there is one person who instigated what came next.

Who are you in the instigations that you instigate? Are you a small person who focuses your instigations solely on selfish motives, thinking only about yourself? Do you focus your instigations on other people, on doing things that affect other people and then scream, “It wasn’t me…” Or, “Whoa is me,” when your actions hurt someone else?

Do you think before you do? Do you look to the future? Chart what may happen next if you do this or if you do that? Do you first study yourself, learn what are your motivations, control the beast within, and then do only what can help instead of hurt?

Honestly, you know if what you are saying is helpful or hurtful. Honestly, you know if what you are doing is good or bad. Honestly, you know that taking things that are not yours is bad—doing things that cause other people pain is bad—saying words that have the potential to hurt someone is bad—being judgment, vain, or emotionally out of control is bad. You know what is bad! Just as you know what is good. Why do you do anything bad?

There are a lot of people in this modern world that are seriously emotionally out of control. Have you ever met one of them? They are the most self-involved, unaware, reactionary people you will ever meet. Yet, they constantly can come up with an excuse for why they are behaving badly. Maybe they even believe these excuses themselves. Maybe that is what actually makes the emotionally out of control. Maybe that is why they don’t get psychiatric help. Maybe…

Then, there are the aware, the educated, the successful… They have achieved what they have achieved but they too do things that set bad occurrences into motion in other people’s lives. What is their excuse? It is the same excuse. It is the same justification. It is the same logic and reason—they didn’t think about anyone or anything else first.

What do you do before you do? Do you contemplate what you are about to do? If you don’t, you are a selfish, unthinking person. That is just the way it is. But, you can be more. But, you have to choose to be more. Do you choose to be more? If you do, then be more! Think about others first. Put your own desires and emotions aside before you do anything. Study yourself. Study your reason why. Control yourself. And, make the world a better place rather than just dodging any responsibility after you have done what you have done.