The people that speak the loudest and the most negatively about anyone are the ones who have accomplished the least in their own life.
 
Have you ever had someone say something negative about you? Many of us have.
 
Have you ever had someone say something negative about you, that wasn’t true? Many of us have.
 
Have you ever had someone say something negative about you, attempting to define you and your life and who you are and what you do, but what they are saying is nowhere near valid? Many of us have.
 
The fact of life is, the people you surround yourself with will be the ones who either sing your praises or cause you to be defined by a world of negative thoughts.
 
In the world of the long ago and the far-far away, most people would and could only speak about those people that they personally knew. They could only spread their thoughts, be they positive or negative, true or false, to others via word of mouth. From this, though what a person may have said may not have been valid or true, what they were speaking about was at least personally experienced.
 
I am not saying when what a person is doing when they are describing another individual, in a negative manner, is righteous or valid or good or right simply because they personally know the person of whom they speak. But, at least, with a basis of personal interactive knowledge, they can claim validation to their system of belief. This, of course, has all changed with the internet, where all of the Loud Mouths can say anything they want about anyone be it true, false, or otherwise. They can say it and people may listen.
 
Have you ever met someone for the first time and you can feel that they do not like you? They don’t like you, but they have never met you. Have you ever looked a bit deeper into this situation and realized the person who instantly doesn’t like you knows someone that you know or has interacted with someone who has been speaking negatively about you and describing you from behind your back? This happens all the time. Certainly, it is not right, but that is the nature of the beast.
 
So, here’s the thing… Ask yourself, “Who is out there that I do not like?” Now ask yours, “Why don’t I like them?”
 
Further refine this question a little bit. “Who is out there that I do not like—someone that I have never actually met?”  Again, ask yourself, “Why don’t I like them?” Was it because of what someone else has said about them? Is it because someone else described them to you and you formed an opinion about the person based on what someone else said even though you never personally meet the individual? If this is the case, doesn’t that mean that you have no basis in your own sphere of reality for liking or disliking that individual in the first place? Doesn’t that mean that you have allowed someone else to take control over your own patterns of thoughts and emotions based on nothing more than what someone else thinks due to whatever distorted self-imposed psychological mindset they possess? Moreover, why have you given them that control over you? And, by doing so, what does that make you and what does that make them?
 
If you are one of those people who is either swayed by what someone else tells you to think or to feel about that someone else, doesn’t that mean that you do not possess your own mind?
 
If you are one of those people who tries to paint a negative picture about anyone else, for any reason, doesn’t that mean that you are not self-aware enough to allow people to judge other individuals for themselves by their own methods via true interpersonal interaction?
 
The people that speak the loudest and the most negatively about anyone are the ones who have accomplished the least in their own life.
 
To truly know a person the only way is to truly know a person. If you do not personally know them, you cannot know who and what they truly are. Never let your mind be swayed into believing that any person is actually a someone or a something simply because somebody else is describing them to be that way.   
 
To personally know is the only way to know. Never believe what someone else describes another individual to be for that means that you have given away your own sense of critical judgment and, thus, you possess no mind and no determination of your own.